Angry at God
I can honestly say, after 20+ years of redemption, that I can not recall a time in which I was “angry at God”. I am not throwing stones if you have been – I am just saying I have not.
In fairness, I have also not really experienced tragedy like some have…I have not lost a bride, a child, or a best friend even.
I have heard people express that they are angry at God, it is something that I do not understand. Here are few questions that come to mind when I think about this idea…hopefully they will help.
If you are angry at God, who do you turn to for counsel? This is probably the biggest reason for my lack of understanding. He is all knowing…all wise…all powerful. If I am giving Him the silent treatment then I am receiving counsel on a level much lower than available. Seeking out the counsel of a parent, a pastor, or a partner is fine, but their counsel is nothing compared to God’s. Shunning God has never helped anyone cope or conquer tragedy. “Oh, how great are God’s riches and wisdom and knowledge! How impossible it is for us to understand his decisions and his ways! For who can know what the Lord is thinking? Who knows enough to be his counselor?” (Romans 11:33-34)
If you are angry at God, what is the root of the anger? Is it a lack of trust? Is it a projection of feelings left by humanity’s inability to always be there when you need them? This emotion towards God demonstrates a trust issue with God. This lack of trust says; “I am not sure that you are keeping my best interests in mind”. His word is clear; “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28)
If you are angry at God, what part of God are you angry at? Are you angry at His unconditional love, His hope, His peace, His mercy, His justice, His…the list goes on. Is there anything in Him in which you can justify anger towards? I understand that bad things happen to good people…but what we have to understand is – God is not the originator of those bad things. If you want to be angry…that at times is understandable…angry at God is futile. “Whatever is good and perfect comes to us from God above, who created all heaven’s lights.Unlike them, he never changes or casts shifting shadows.” (James 1:17)
If you are angry at God, can you still be intimate with Him? Anger destroys relationships. Time and again, I have heard first hand accounts of people who experienced a tragedy…became angry with God (which is a form of blame)…and walked out on their relationship with Him all together. Intimacy is hindered in the midst of anger and resentment. This lack of intimacy starts a process of spiraling depression…the only cure for depression is intimacy. “In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” (Psalm 16:11)
If you are angry at God, you should repent! Being angry at Him is sin. It is pride. It is placing your emotion or intellect above Him. It is okay to be angry…the bible speaks of not sinning in your anger…angry at Him is sinful anger. May I suggest getting angry “with” God rather than “at” God. What I mean is, recognize that God is angry at your tragedy as well…God is heartbroken over the state of this fallen world. God is angry at sickness and disease – be angry “with” God. God is angry with the filth of pornography and sex-trafficking – be angry “with” God. God is angry with the work of satan…his theft, his killing, his destruction – be angry “with” God.
Challenge: Really search your heart…if you are angry at God it will hinder your relationship with God…if you find anger towards Him…repent…run back to Him!